Take Care of You

Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s smart.

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Healthy Habits

From exercise, to sleep, to healthy eating, the choices you make every day can help you stay sharp.

Health

Health

Having a healthy routine like getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and maintaining a balanced diet to keep your body and mind working well.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness

Even though it may seem as if your emotions are all over the place, try to stay centered and maintain a sense of calm. Think about trying some mindfulness exercises. This can be as simple as observing your breathing or committing to a 5-10 minute daily meditation practice.

Stress

Stress

Do your best to handle stress in a healthy way. Staying clear-headed during divorce is the most important thing you can do for yourself.

Emotional Support

Emotional Support

It is important to have someone who will be supportive and who you feel comfortable talking about your feelings with. It can be a therapist, a trusted friend, or family member. Confiding in someone can help you find connection and support.

Safety

Abuse isn't always physical - it can be verbal, psychological, or emotional. It might seem unnecessary, but consider having a safety plan in place to stay away from potentially dangerous situations: The home of a friend or relative as a designated "safe space" A short-term supply of necessities (cash, toiletries, change of clothes) If necessary, you can apply for a domestic violence restraining order, which can be issued immediately by a judge or even the local police department if it's an emergency. Another option is a local shelter or domestic violence hotline. These resources are available to help in situations that might be unsafe and can provide short-term shelter. If you feel that your safety, your loved ones’ safety, or the safety of your property is at risk, you should immediately contact 911 or another help line. Some police departments may also escort you to gather your belongings as you exit.

Self-Care

Remember to take care of yourself first, especially if family members depend on you.

Divorce causes all sorts of emotions. At times you might feel sad, lonely, worried, angry, and bitter.

As difficult as some days may be,  you still have to put your game face on and get down to the business that is getting divorced.

Self-care is of upmost importance so that you stay health and strong.

Learn more about mental health resources

 

  • These organizations can offer peer and family supports, and provide general information on treatment and available services for mental health issues.

    MENTALHEALTH.GOV / RESOURCE

  • Psychology Today provides a comprehensive directory of therapists, psychiatrists, and treatment facilities near you.

    PSYCHOLOGY TODAY / RESOURCE

By the numbers

1M+

There were 1M+ divorces in the US in 20162

2x

The divorce rate doubles after age 503

40–50%

40–50% of married couples in the US divorce4

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Focus on the long term

Ignoring your wellbeing or avoiding a full assessment of your finances will hurt your outlook.

Expect to spend more

Ignoring your wellbeing or avoiding a full assessment of your finances will hurt your outlook.

Living single can be costly—most people’s expenses go up 30%1 after a divorce, so budget accordingly.

Expect to spend more

Ignoring your wellbeing or avoiding a full assessment of your finances will hurt your outlook.

Living single can be costly—most people’s expenses go up 30%1 after a divorce, so budget accordingly.

Focus on the long term

Ignoring your wellbeing or avoiding a full assessment of your finances will hurt your outlook.

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